Once you get that double line or the word 'pregnant' shows up again people seem to forget that we have had a loss and that being pregnant will solve our sadness, but it doesn't. There is the old sadness remembering the baby we lost plus the sadness that we will never fully enjoy a pregnancy. There is also the worry and anxiety about losing the new baby. Society thinks just because a piece of plastic of a blood test says 'Yes you're pregnant' we should be jumping for joy. They don't understand we have lost that naive innocence that we once had. Lots of moms-to-be don't buy anything for their baby until more then half way through their pregnancy worrying they may 'jinx it'.
As milestones come and go it can become better and the mom can start to relax, but some moms don't get this. The families that lost babies at full or almost full term cannot have that feeling of happiness until their baby is actually in their arms.
So if anyone is reading this and is aware of someone who lost a baby at any stage and is pregnant again, ask them how they are. Don't be all gushy and say how happy they should feel now that their pregnant again because this pregnancy will never replace what they lost.