Originally written 07/10/2014
Going through a miscarriage can be one of the most difficult things a person can go through and sadly women and their families get little to no support from society. I have never understood this. We can discuss when a relative dies or a parent or child, but when it is a still birth or a miscarriage it is "not fair" or "not right" to speak about so women and their family has to suffer in silence.
Just because I only carried my child for a short time doesn't mean I didn't love it, name it, imagine our future with it. This feeling of loss never truly goes away. We have to live with it. Yes it gets easier, but it shouldn't get easier alone. We should be able to speak about it openly without being shunned or made to feel ashamed.
Thankfully there are support groups online and there are starting to get more recognition by church support groups and pregnancy and infant loss groups, but it should be the government taking a stand. Oct 15th should be official in all provinces and not just the ones who pass a bill. If the US government can make it official for their entire country why can't Canada?
I hope whoever reads this is able to remember their babies on or around Oct 15th this year with real people who have been through this as well. If not try and light a candle at 7pm your time for the International Wave of Light.
Going through a miscarriage can be one of the most difficult things a person can go through and sadly women and their families get little to no support from society. I have never understood this. We can discuss when a relative dies or a parent or child, but when it is a still birth or a miscarriage it is "not fair" or "not right" to speak about so women and their family has to suffer in silence.
Just because I only carried my child for a short time doesn't mean I didn't love it, name it, imagine our future with it. This feeling of loss never truly goes away. We have to live with it. Yes it gets easier, but it shouldn't get easier alone. We should be able to speak about it openly without being shunned or made to feel ashamed.
Thankfully there are support groups online and there are starting to get more recognition by church support groups and pregnancy and infant loss groups, but it should be the government taking a stand. Oct 15th should be official in all provinces and not just the ones who pass a bill. If the US government can make it official for their entire country why can't Canada?
I hope whoever reads this is able to remember their babies on or around Oct 15th this year with real people who have been through this as well. If not try and light a candle at 7pm your time for the International Wave of Light.